Blacknall Elrod died on Tuesday, November 24, 1998, at Moses H. Cone
Memorial Hospital in Greensboro, N.C. She died in the ICU after being
on a ventilator for 30 days. Her death was due to ARDS that resulted
from hospital acquired pneumonia, which she developed following knee
replacement surgery. She was a wonderful lady, who was loved and
cherished by her family, her friends, and by all who knew her. This
Memorial is in her honor. It is but a glimpse into the life of a
wonderful, caring, and loving Mother who always put the interests and
needs of others far ahead of her own.
born in Henderson, N.C., on April 29, 1916, to Willis Hayes Blacknall
and Elizabeth Perry Blacknall. Along with her older sister, Mary
Hayes, and her younger brother, Willis H. Blacknall, Jr., she grew up
in the family house located at 315 Charles Street. As a young woman,
she was noted for her beauty. She worked briefly at Rose's Five &
Ten Cents Store, as it was then called, and people were known to
frequent the store just to admire her beauty and grace. On December
29, 1941, she married her husband of 52 years, J. E. Elrod, Jr., of
Charlotte, N.C. After World War II, she and her husband, along with
their two small children, moved to Charlotte and lived at 2633
Idlewood Circle for years thereafter. Her first child, Anne Elrod
Meroney, resides in Atlanta. Her second child, Joseph E. Elrod III,
lives in Greensboro, N.C., with his wife, Linda. Mom lived in
Greensboro for the last 20 years of her life. She lost her husband to
leukemia in 1994, but remained fully independent thereafter.
many, many friends throughout her life. Two that stand out in
particular were Mrs. A. V. Elkin of Charlotte, and Mrs. Ruth Armstrong
of Greensboro. Both loved her as though she were a sister. Mom loved
her children and grandchildren, and enjoyed her trips to the coast
each year with Joe and Linda, as well as the many holiday celebrations
that took place in Atlanta with Anne. She had a very loving and
special relationship with Linda, her daughter-in-law. Mom was an
active member of the Rachel Caldwell Chapter of the Daughters of the
American Revolution, having served as Vice Regent, as Librarian, and
on many committees and dele ga tions. She was a member of the West
Market Street United Methodist Church. In addition to Joe, Linda, and
Anne, she was survived by her grandchildren, Mary Craig Dimmett of
Kennesaw, Georgia; Meggan Elrod Piehl of Chapel Hill, N.C.; Mark B.
Elrod of San Carlos, California; and Katherine P. Meroney of Atlanta;
and by two great grandchildren, Jackson Perry Dimmett and Charles Mark
some insight can be gained into Mom's character by virtue of the
following poem by an unknown author that she copied and left in a
place where she knew it would be found following her death. Again, she
always placed others before herself, and this poem reflects that
aspect of her life more than words can ever recount.
I said a
prayer for you today
And know that God must have heard
I felt the answer in my heart
Although he spoke no word
I didn't ask for wealth and fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)
I asked him to send treasures
Of a far more lasting kind.
that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And friends to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small
But it was for His loving care
I prayed for most of all.
Mom was buried
beside her husband at Forest Lawn Cemetery in Greensboro on Saturday,
November 28, 1998. In her casket, she took with her the following message
from Anne, Joe, and Linda. We will never forget her. We will love her
wording of an obituary does nothing to describe you, the beautiful woman
who was our Mother. We, your children, have special memories of who you
were and what you meant to us. We know the sacrifices that you made so
that we would have what we wanted and needed. We will always be grateful
to you for loving us so much.
Mom, you had no equal as a parent, a grandmother, a friend, confidante,
and companion. You have been our teacher, our strength and our advocate.
You held us up the many times we would have fallen. Like the many grieving
friends that you leave behind you, we will never forget you. You truly
lived out your faith through your devotion to us and your kindness to
everyone you met. You gave of yourself to everyone you knew, and not only
to us, your children.
You drew your energy from being with others and doing for them. Everyone
who met you became your friend within minutes. You loved to laugh and to
make others laugh. You lived to make others feel at ease. Your trips to
the beach and to Atlanta, looking aft er your grandchildren, and holding
your great grandchildren, having a drink with dear friends, baking
chocolate chip cookies for the children, reading books—all of these
things gave you joy.
We truly feel that the moment you died, God came and took back an angel.
Now that you are in eternity with others we love, we can only pray that
God will hold you to his breast until we can be together. Until that day,
we will love you and honor you and will cherish our happy memories of you.
Godspeed, Mother, until we meet again.